The Influence of Needs in Senior High School

I believe that every people have needs to fulfill their life as a human. According to Maslow, there are five stages of needs to fulfill our life. The first is physiological. In this stage as human we need food, water, shelter, and warmth. It can help us to survive in our life. I think I have this stage, because if I am hungry, I always eat some food, I use water to drink, take a bath, etc. I have a place for save me from rain, cold, etc. The second stage is safety. There is a law that can save me from criminalization, and I can save myself from the dangerous by use variety of ways. The third stage is self-belonging. In this stage I have parents, family and friends that love me. The fourth stage is self-esteem and the last is self-actualization needs.
In fulfill our needs in life, I believe every people have motivation to reach their needs and goals. There are four needs that can influence our motivation. There are needs of autonomy, needs of competence, needs of relatedness, and needs of self-worth.
According to Maslow needs of autonomy happen when people want to life independent. Meanwhile needs of relatedness happen when someone who are not famous in school and she/he try to be known by other people in school, such as she/he want the teacher know her/him in class so, she/he try some ways to make it happen. In the needs of self-worth there is self-handicapping. Self-handicapping itself means that an action which prevents a person from being responsible for failure (Kolditz & Arkin, 1982). Self-handicapping usually is used by someone to maintain self-esteem and self-worth in certain condition. There is the example of needs of competence based on my experience. I ever experienced that I want to solve all of the tasks that teacher give to me although I have difficulties when I did it.
Then, another experienced is when I was senior high school, I did self-handicapping to help me for maintain self-esteem and self-worth. I did it in many situations, such as when I got a bad score in the subject that I felt confident in, I said to my friends that I didn’t study well last night so, I didn’t confident in the test. Another case that when I didn’t want my friends cheated my homework, but they asked me to lend out my homework to them, and I said that I didn’t finish my homework yet so I cannot lend it to them. I think I always did self-handicapping when I was senior high school because of certain condition.

Source: retrieved 19 Oktober 2012 from www.psycwiki.com